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Good Relationships Equals Honest Relationships.

One of the biggest reason marriages fail is because couples fail to learn the answers to the big questions before getting married and even after they get married.
If couples would spend some time asking each other the questions that are really important and answer them honestly, they'd greatly increase their chances of a happy life together.
A lot of couples are scared to ask certain questions such as where do you really think you're going to end up when you die? Do you really want to have a child? If I decide to start a role playing club would you be okay with that?
Sometimes when couples do discuss these questions they're not always honest. Telling your partner you want children before you get married just because you think they would be upset if you said otherwise is trapping them into a false relationship.
If you are not sure tell them you are not sure yet. If you definitely do not want children then tell them that it's not going to happen. Be truthful.
You will find that the happiest couples know pretty much everything about one another. They are the ones that don't complain about each other behind the other person back because they really have nothing to complain about because they know what to expect.
She was aware that he didn't like going out to girly movies and he knew she didn't like hanging out with his friends. There's no need to complain to their friends about those things because they know where their partner stands on it and accepted it coming into the relationship.
I think that's why Dr. Phil is becoming so popular. He has that common phrase that you can fix what you don't admit. You have to admit to your partner the things you do and don't like and you have to be honest with them.
If they can't deal with honesty then the relationship is doomed anywase. Who would want to be in a pretend relationship? Where one person insists that the other person is a certain way even though they've been told time and again the truth.
I find that sometimes people are not even honest with themselves and that comes from wanting to portray yourself in a certain way.
We do not have to always be what other people expect us to be. We are defined by the roles we create for ourselves.
There is someone who fits into whatever role you are creating for yourself and that person will help you achieve it and not bring you down.
So start asking each other those questions that you might not otherwise ask. Start learning about each other's real desires and beliefs and listen with a non judgmental attitude.
But the bottom line is you have to be honest with asking and answering these questions.

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